How Picky Am I?
Vague labels don’t help. See what share of adults your preferences actually describe.
Data-backed criteria
Your filters
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I am
Looking for
Ethnicity (optional)
Select multiple to expand pool (OR logic)
Age range: 25–35
Height: Any
Minimum income: $50,000/year
Dataset region
Desired distance
Geographic context only — scales headcount, not rarity %
Result tone
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Measurement vs judgment
“How picky am I?” asks for a number. “Am I too picky?” adds a value call. This page answers the first with the same standards engine used across the site.
Rough pickiness bands
- Pool ≥10% — broad
- 0.5–10% — typical selective range
- <0.5% — very selective
- <0.05% — extreme
What to do with the number
If your pool is tiny and outcomes feel stuck, audit the top filter in the breakdown. If your pool is wide but dating still fails, look at channels, presentation, and mutual interest — not just demographics.