Realistic Dating Standards
Realistic isn’t “settling”. It’s knowing whether your checklist still leaves a workable pool.
Data-backed criteria
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Select multiple to expand pool (OR logic)
Age range: 25–35
Height: Any
Minimum income: $50,000/year
Dataset region
Desired distance
Geographic context only — scales headcount, not rarity %
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What “realistic” means here
A standard is statistically scarce when few people meet it. Whether that is a problem depends on your timeline and search strategy. We show the scarcity; you choose the strategy.
Single filters vs stacks
- 6'0"+ alone ≈ selective but common
- $100k+ alone ≈ selective
- Height + income + narrow age + single ≈ often hard mode
A practical framework
Split preferences into non-negotiables, strong prefs, and nice-to-haves. Run the calculator with only non-negotiables first, then add layers and watch the multiplier collapse.